Cheating Has No Parameters
Only one question matters: Can the relationship hold the truth again?
Yesterday, a client asked me a question that lingered long after our conversation ended.
“What should be the parameter of cheating in a marriage?
At what point can a person be forgiven?”
It struck me.
And when I thought about it deeply, my answer was simple, ask yourself:
Can the relationship hold the truth again?
Can you forget it completely?
Because the truth is, no parameter can define cheating.
There’s no universal rulebook, no set of conditions that decide what counts and what doesn’t.
Sometimes, some questions are entirely personal.
No psychologist can answer them for you.
No doctor can.
No relationship guru can.
Cheating isn’t just about what the guilty has done…
it’s also about what the other person has to live with.
The one who betrayed carries guilt.
But the one who’s been betrayed… they carry the weight of every memory,
every shared moment that now feels questioned.
Before they can decide anything,
they have to relive many chapters of their life…
and then arrive at a single, painful crossroad:
To forgive, or not.
To stay, or not.
And that decision — no matter what anyone says…
is one only you can make.
